If you look at your ADD children with your heart you know that they are so much better than they appear. If you look at your ADHD self with your heart. You know that you too are so much better than you appear. I think it is important for us to remember the fox's secret because our self esteem and the self esteem of our children depend on it.
My heart tells me that my inattentive son is kind, smart, funny, creative and great company. It also tells me that he is quite OK with who he is but my naked eyes see things in him that are hard to watch. His difficulty socializing is probably the biggest problem I see and I wish that there was some way to help him with this. I feel that this is more my problem than his and I need to put that aside and appreciate him for who he is.
My younger Hyperactive Impulsive ADHD son, to the naked eye is a crazed child. He is so hyper and so impulsive that he can sometimes be impossibly hard to be around. The medicine does not always help and I am sad that what most people see in him is not what my heart sees. My heart sees a young strong boy who is a go getter, creative, funny, helpful, generous, and good hearted. He too is fine with who he is.
Seeing my hyperactive/impulsive son as his best self is not always easy. It can, in fact, be downright hard. When he is tearing through our souls with all his might and bouncing off or walls all we do is to try to maintain our sanity and limit the collateral damage. None the less, trying always to see him, as he really is, is probably a skill worth pursuing.